When you are 10 feet from Tony Robbins



"It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped."
- Tony Robbins

This week I was at an intimate conference in Santa Monica with my dear friend and ah-mazing Chocolatier Amy Jo Valenza.  

We saw the legend Tony Hawk speak. 
We saw the amazing (and also funny) founders of Zumba talk.  
We saw the woman from LikeToKnowIt talk.  $10 million to $150 to $300 in a few years.
We saw these amazing people speak and then of course we saw Tony Robbins.  

Remind me to tell you the story of when my husband swore Pam Anderson smiled at him when instead she really smiled at me.  

And ask me next how I swear I think the big Tony Robbins was speaking directly to me.  
One of 200 or so people in the room, he was speaking to me.  
I don't get giddy over many people anymore... but THIS was unreal. 

Honestly, I wondered if the other awesome speakers were thinking the same way I was...


LOL! :) 

Here's one story HE offered that has stuck in my brain about pushing past your fear.

Everyone talks about how you have to fight through fear.  
And darn... don't we try?
I mean really... we are trying aren't we?

But he said - think of it as if you are going skiing or snowboarding. 

Most of us are comfortable easing our way down the easy slopes.  
Or I think it is called the green slopes.  
Swish.  Swish.  Swish.  

Then by accident, we get on some diamonds or even the black diamonds and think "OH SH*T!" 
What have I done??

Most people THEN go to the very edges and try to ease their way down.  

What have I done?!

Then a few us tackle the middle.  Take on the moguls.
We fall.  We get up.  We fall.  We get up again.  And then somewhere near the bottom we get our rhythm....

We just did it! 
We just made it down this Mother F'er!!  

THAT'S facing your fear. 
Getting on Black Diamond when you're really only used to the Greens.  
That's pushing past your fears. 

And that's doing it!

I happen to have the ability to relate to that story and have so many personal lessons from it.

This past spring we went skiing and honestly it was the first time since I was a kid I had been. 
First time since I was 6 or 7. 
We went snowboarding on our honeymoon but skiing. 
Nope.  Nothing. 

Anyway, the girls were in ski school, my husband was next to me.
I got on my skiis and coming off the lift on the BUNNY slope I fell flat.  
Oh Lordie....

For two days I "skied".  
We were there and I was doing it.  

I learned to sway back and forth.
I learned the faster I go, I really get scared.  
I learned there is a whole lot of fun in between all that falling.
I learned that turning slowed me down. 
I learned that when I am tired I fall. 
I learned I need to workout harder err... again... if I really want to do this again. 
I learned that I can fall, fall, fall. 
And get back up again and again and again.
I learned that when you roll down the hill more than you ski, that it's time to grab a drink at the outdoor bar.  LOL!
I learned how sweet my husband is to wait for me, stay with me, even though his skill level far surpasses mine. 
I learned that yes, you actually need Goggles, especially on the snowiest days. 
I learned that winter gear is well worth the price and ski socks are great.
I learned that the "relaxing chair" in the AirBnB offers an amazing 20 minutes after a full day of skiing. 
And I learned that the pineapple sized bruises on my tush only last a week or so.
I also learned I can do anything at this ripe old age I am at.  
I learned I want to be healthy for my girls and do things with them and not just forthem. 

It was amazing being in front of Tony.   That close to him, his stories and his friendliest of pushes.

It makes me think. 
What are the Black Diamond mountains for me today? 
For me in my everyday?  My goals and dreams?

What about you?  What are your Black Diamonds?

LEAD. Lovelies.  Lead.

--> Say what you will about Hugh Hefner but did you know he started Playboy after he left his job as a copywriter at Esquire.  He asked for a $5 raise and they turned him down.  He also went deaf because he used too much Viagra.  He said he's rather have sex than be deaf.  #RIP  

--> Finally there's some good leadership no one can deny!  GET OUT!  


--> AND vs BUT.  AM vs -ING.  Cliff Notes Version:  Your productivity will increase will you choose your words a little bit more carefully... more specifically.  Drop the BUT from your sentences and switch it out for AND.  

--> Harvard Business Review: The busier you are the more downtime you need.#sodarntrue

--> Take notes verbally!  Even my husband is doing it!  (Big deal he's soo non-technical! ) You don't need a fancy app - just use the pre-loaded notes app on your phone and hit record.  



-->  Julia Louis-Dreyfus was diagnosed with breast cancer.  I love and adore her.  She has been nominated 18 times for the Emmy's and has the best worst dance moves ever.  Let's give thanks for her openness and wish her well. 


Quick side note from Ashleigh.  Here are my most favorite tools ever.

  • For audio motivation - Relentless by Tim Grover. I listen to him as I was in the mornings.  My walk always becomes a power walk after listening. 
  • To focus during the day I love to focus@will.  They say music helps you focus and for me it surely does.  I blare the classical music.  I am not sure how many people my age choose that over techno but either way I love it.
  • Rosemarie Groner (from the Busy Budgeter) is a friend and I just LOVE how much she gives everything away.  She tells you and anyone she can her detailed way to making money!  Start with her Pinterest Strategy Guide that is worth every penny.  Not. going. to. lie


--> I am a total and complete note-taker.  This week's podcast I go through my notes from this intimate conference I was at with 8 & 9 figure business legends.  AND listen to the story on how I told one of the Tinder Co-Founders that "Yes, I agree... Women dohave far more responsibilities then men." 

--> We'll have the round of your September favorites on Monday but in the meantime take a look here:  8 of your favorite links from August + a free book giveaway!

PS- We think you'll be interested in these too!