“you drink too much.
you cuss too much.
you have questionable morals.
you're everything i ever wanted in a friend.”
― Kitchen Towel
When I was in my 20s I organized a volunteering party. I had 15 friends come together to help in a full day give back to the community event. We painted, we organized, we moved boxes, we spent hours upon hours getting dirty.
During that day, some of the girls and I talked about our favorite books and what we were reading. So I then organized a book club. We picked a book and picked a date and went with it. Laini, Jodi, Becky, Renee, Marcia and I think Roxanne all came to my parents house to review our first book. It was my pick. It was a horrible read. Marcia sat in the corner looking like she was sulking. Renee tried to find the good in the book and insist it was "ok". It was nerve wracking and awkward. We knew each other sort of and just a little but this intimate setting took strangers to a new level of strange.
I wanted the connection. I wanted the girlfriends. I wanted girlfriends that I had something in common with!
I was awkward. I was weird. I was horrible at picking good books. AND I was doing this all from my parent's living room!
(Shouldn't I have been in an apartment yet?!)
But if I wanted these things. I had to be the one to do it. I had to be the one to create it. If I wanted the connection, I had to create it.
I had no idea what I was doing.
I was interested in making friends.
I was interested in having discussions and conversations.
I was interested.
So I sent the emails. Sent the invites. Offered to host.
And the tribe was created.
The book club was created.
Women came in, women went out.
But there was a core of awesome women that met every month.
Every month we picked a book. Most of read it. It was okay if we didn't.
Eventually we got to a point where we would yell out
"Anybody want to discuss the book?"
We were thick as thieves.
Maybe we talked during the month. Maybe not.
When it was time to get together, we were so interested in talking and catching up together.
We met for 10 years. Every month.
That's a tribe.
It's a tribe that started with a whole lot of awkward.
We went through the years together. New houses, new engagements and new husbands. New babies.
Today, right now, think about your tribe.
Commit to it.
Commit to them.
When I was in my 20s I invited a bunch of unknowns to connect with me. It was the best experience of my life. The best friends of my life.
When I was in my 30s and living on a different coast, I created a cooking club. We don't get together every month anymore. But we did. And our connection are real. Our friendships are real.
Now that I am almost 40, The Power Squad Project is the new vision. A new tribe in the making.
We're not perfect. But the friendships are developing.
Connecting with you.
Connecting with you in person.
Connecting with you, period.
It's awkward in the beginning. There's stuff we have to figure out together.
But there's no doubt it ...
It's sooo worth it.
You're worth it.
Would you reply back and let me know if you are feelin' it?
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- For audio motivation - Relentless by Tim Grover. I listen to him as I was in the mornings. My walk always becomes a power walk after listening.
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IN CASE YOU MISSED IT:
--> This past week on the The Power Squad Project Podcast I talked about dreaming big and how things I personally dreamed about, manifested itself into reality. When I think about the different things that have come true and why, it makes even me want to dream bigger in my heart and soul. You can listen a few ways. Via iTunes or directly from this site. You choose. Listen in and dream bigger.
--> I was interviewed by Jen Turell on her podcast Financial Fluency: How Women Thrive Outside the 9 to 5. You can listen in on that one too here. Of course we talked all about how and why The Power Squad Project got started!